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Lessons on Timing & Integrity

Thursday, July 30th, 2009

Judy and I were at Creekwood Golf Course giving it our best shot at filming a Public Service Announcement (PSA) for Youth4Youth and Tickets Fore CharityTM promotion for television. This pair of wanna be producers discovered the realities of filming as wind, too much sun, jets landing every 60 seconds and golfers coming through the 14th green made for a frustrating attempt at filming for a second day. So we jumped in the golf cart and headed for the clubhouse stopping to watch a group of four gentlemen on the 18th tee.  One of the men, Bill Bowers, asked what we were filming and I told him about the PSA for Tickets Fore CharityTMand we were trying to do it ourselves because we didn’t have a budget for it. Bill said, “Hold on a minute I want to talk with you.” He walked over and placed his ball on the tee, looked back at his friends and said, “This is a shot you will tell your grandkids about.” And it was. If only I could have one drive off a tee that perfect it would probably satisfy me for a lifetime. He walks back and gives me his card and says, “I can help you.” Later, when we looked at the video footage, Judy and I looked at each other, smiled and said, “We need help.”  Four days later I was visiting six area TV stations dropping off professional PSA tapes formatted for television thanks to Bill Bowers.

Lesson One - Timing

For Judy and I to have that conversation on the 18th tee at Creekwood Golf Course, failure had to take place, in that the previous day, wind and too much sun gave us unusable video. The next day provided much of the same; wind, sun, jets and golfers passing through causing poor taping conditions. When Bill handed me his card, I immediately knew why we came back to film at the time of day we did and why we continued to try despite the conditions. It was a matter of timing. Had we never pulled up to the 18th tee at that moment in time we would have never met and had that conversation with Bill Bowers. I have become accustom to things happening this way if - I remain open to them and we each have this same opportunity each day.

So I have to ask myself, how often am I in such a hurry that I miss an opportunity?

Let’s blow this out a bit bigger. How often are you in a hurry and so you rush right on by opportunity? How often do we become impatient, frustrated and then become closed off to the many opportunities that present themselves? Slowing down, remaining open and looking for opportunity in the midst of what we perceive as failure will pay big benefits.

 Lesson Two - Integrity

 I learned Bill Bowers is a person of integrity. He said he could help and he did. I am finding this a rare quality in people today. When you say what you will do, then do what you say…that’s integrity! No contracts, no fine print, just Bill’s word. Thank you Bill!

 Special Thanks:

 Bob Kasarda and the team at  Gemini Video Productions whose studio recorded, edited and produced the PSA for Youth4Youth. If you need video or advertising work done I suggest you contact them. If you need a voiceover - Bill Bowers is the guy.

 Dale Sandvick owner of Creekwood Golf Course in Columbia Station, Ohio, whose hospitality and full course access for filming was over the top.

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Decisions, Decisions, Decisions

Sunday, February 8th, 2009

Hey Kids! Have you ever been in a situation where you’re playing a video game and the thought hits you…I have homework and a test to study for? You know what you should do - but you make a decision to keep playing because you want to beat the game. So you tell yourself, “Only 10-minutes more.” 10-minutes turns into two-hours and before you know it, you’re back in school unprepared for the test and without your homework for your next class. You squeak by with a D on the test and tell yourself, “I’m glad it wasn’t an F, at least I passed.” As for the homework, “Well, I’ll just have to make sure I don’t miss anymore assignments.” We all know how that goes!

Decisions, decisions! How many decisions will you make today? Try counting them and you will soon discover you are constantly making decisions; hundreds if not thousands each day; should I get up, what do I wear today, what will I eat, shower or wash my face and that’s only the beginning.

How does someone become a good decision-maker? It’s simple! Start making decisions. Decision-Making is a skill; it’s like a muscle, the more you use it, the stronger it becomes. The best part is it increases your self-esteem and self-confidence. You develop pride in yourself and gain more respect & trust from your peers and adults. You begin to make bigger decisions that take you faster and further in life. The best part is - anyone can do it! 

Decision-making Tips

1.) Make a decision to develop a daily routine.

This decision helps you get each day off to a good start. If you prepare the night before you will end your day as a winner and be ready for a good start in the morning. 

2.) Put yourself in situations where you have to make decisions.

Make a decision to become involved with clubs or organizations in your school, church or community. You will learn both decision-making and leadership skills. Note: When you first join a club or organization it is normal to feel uncomfortable. Step out of your comfort zone. Years from now you will look back and say, “That was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made!” For more on youth leadership and decision-making visit www.youth4youth.org

3.) Ask a trusted adult or role model for advice.

Adults will help you consider things you never thought about because of their life experiences. Take their insight and use it to help make the best decision. Who are the adults in your life that can help you look at your options in different situations? 

4.) Decide who you will be as a person.

Who you are is your character and it is based on your morals and beliefs. As we mature, we learn to gather facts and knowledge and include that information in our decision-making. There are times when we will find the best decision may not always be the most popular one or one I like, but it may very well be the best decision. When in question about a decision, “Listen with your heart.”   

Larry Tracey is founder of Youth4Youth, an author, parent and teen coach and trainer who teaches success, leadership and decision making skills. Members of Youth4Youth believe each student has the potential to be successful and work to create environments in which all students are given the opportunity to discover and begin development of their potential. Contact Larry Tracey at success@youth4youth.org

Leadership Tip 17: Invest Attention Units Wisely

Thursday, February 5th, 2009

On any given day there are countless people and activities trying to get our time and attention. We are bombarded by information from cell phones, text messaging, television, I-pods, emails and more. All are constantly seeking to capture their share of our attention units. Let’s add this into the daily mix of your mental “to do” list; school, friends, extracurricular school activities, studying and a job. All of a sudden you are on overload. Sound familiar?

 Oops, I almost forgot…what about all those things you haven’t finished. We call those “incompletes.” You know, that person you said you’d call or text right back and you’ve forgotten. Or school projects you have to finish or have put-off due to lack of time or urgency. These things add up by consuming all your attention units, daily.

Imagine if you were able to focus most of your attention units on your dreams and direction in life! You had the habit of not getting distracted by the drama of life. You had “confidence in” rather than “worry about” the future or the past and you had such an exciting day today that you can hardly wait until tomorrow. Creating the habit of investing your Attention Units wisely will help make those dreams come true, quicker and easier.

 Let’s start with the basics: An attention unit is your ability to remember and keep information in the forefront of your mind. Think of it as the storage capacity of a computer data stick. You only have the capacity to hold so much “stuff,” so a lot of important information gets lost or misplaced. The results are forgotten assignments, missed deadlines, broken promises and agreements, feelings of frustration, guilt, self-doubt and “if only I would have.”

 The Facts:

1.      There are only 24-hours in a day. (This will never change - don’t invest time wishing it were different.)

 2.      Attention Units - we only have so many. The idea here is to free up as many as possible each day to allow you to reach you maximum potential on any given day. (i.e. the more I get done in my 24 hours)

 So what’s the answer? Develop habit patterns that work to support your success. In this case the same old same old is a great thing. Make it work to your advantage as you develop habits that will make your success inevitable.

Being organized is the most effective habit to begin with. In starting, place your attention units here.

 Here are some quick tips that will help you stay focused, do more and be more.

 1. Develop systems to keep organized.

A system is a habit of always doing the same thing the same way. Always put your books in the same place. Always put your homework in the same place. Here are a few other areas to develop habits to stay organized: locker, sports bag, book bag, desk, bedroom, study area, laundry and dirty clothes, dresser and the inside of your car.

 2. Plan tomorrow the night before.

Know what you are going to wear the night before. Know what you have to do tomorrow. What commitments do you have? Review tomorrow in your mind just before you fall asleep and see yourself being successful in everything you do.

 3.      Develop the habit of using a daily planner.

Most schools now have Agendas for each student. Learn to use this great tool. Learning to use this tool effectively frees up so many attention units that it’s unreal.

 4.      Develop the habit of writing down assignments and always taking notes.

Add commitments you make to others and yourself. Always know where your agenda is and keep it with you most of the time.

  Speed Tips For Getting Started and Successful Results:

First, do a major cleaning of your world - locker, sports bag, bedroom, study area, laundry and dirty clothes, dresser and the inside of your car.

 Create a daily checklist to make these habits a part of your life. Before long you will notice your attention units are now focused on your dreams and direction in life. Remember, it takes 30 consecutive days of doing something before it becomes a part of your unconscious habit pattern. (The key word here is consecutive.)

 Oh, I almost forgot! Rumors and gossip, worrying and putting things off - are all wasted attention units that hold you back in life. I know, no one’s perfect and some days we all get distracted by the drama of life. Make a commitment to yourself to not get distracted too long!

 If you have a question or comment email: AttentionUnits@youth4youth.org

PS. The world rewards action! What is one action step you will take right now?       © 2008 Larry Tracey All Rights Reserved

Larry Tracey is founder of Youth4Youth, an author, keynote speaker and trainer who teaches success and leadership life skills. Members of Youth4Youth believe each student has the potential to be successful and work to create environments in which all students are given the opportunity to discover and begin development of their potential. Contact Larry Tracey by email: success@youth4youth.org 

 

Leadership Tip 1: Make the Path, Leave the Trail

Monday, January 26th, 2009

If you have participated in Youth4Youth Ultimate Leadership Training you know what separates a leader from others is that a leader has vision. You also know you are not born a leader, but you are trained to be a leader and that is why I recommend we train daily. 

 

Here are four easy ways to help you train daily and develop your leadership skills:

 

1.  Read. Always have one or more books you are reading that are uplifting, inspiring or positive. It’s not the amount you read it’s the quality of the information and when you read it. Start your day with a page or two and I highly recommend ending your day with a page or two. The purpose is to always be pointing your mind in a positive direction, while increasing your leadership skills and creativity.

 

2. Take lots of notes. Taking lots of notes makes learning easier. Not only does it    increase our memory and understanding, notes identify what was important and easily allow us to expand our thoughts and ideas.

 

3. Set Goals. Your goals MUST be in writing. Make sure they are achievable, measurable and specific and have a date when you will accomplish each goal. READ your goals daily. (Ideally, do this first thing in the morning and just before bed. Hmm…sound familiar!) SEE yourself (leaders have vision) as how you would be when you achieve your goal. FEEL the feelings you will feel when you have reached your goal. BELIEVE it’s possible and then let it go and go about your day.

 

4. Step out of your comfort zone. We all live within a box called our comfort zone. As a leader you will want to find one opportunity each day to step out of your comfort zone. It may be asking a question in class or speaking up when you see someone being treated unkindly by others. You may volunteer to do an    assignment, read in front of the class or help someone who doesn’t understand something. The more we expand our comfort zone the bigger our box becomes. The idea is to make the world your box! Then, no matter where you go or what the challenge is, you are willing to go for it with confidence. 

 

Your leadership development happens over time. Have patience, practice these easy steps and one day you will realize you are the one making the path and leaving the trail for others to follow. And if others see you as lucky…you will know in your heart — The World Rewards Action!   © 2008 Larry Tracey All Rights Reserved

 

Larry Tracey, writer of this article, is an author and founder of  Youth4Youth. Y4Y teaches success, leadership and promotes school safety by treating everyone with respect.  His latest book, The Secret of the Can, is available at:

www.TheSecretOfTheCan.com

Martin Luther King, Jr. and Youth4Youth

Monday, January 19th, 2009

Today, I found myself waking with a new understanding and appreciation for Martin Luther King, Jr.  Just after the election, I realized we are still missing the point. It was the first time I really understood the words and the dream of Dr. King, “…one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.” It was in that moment that I found the words written in the Youth4Youth foundation echoing in my mind.

“Youth4Youth is about changing the school climate by helping your school building become an environment of support, respect, and safety for all, regardless of intellect, physical barriers and limitations, race, social, or economic issues. Youth4Youth works toward achieving such an environment.”

 As with earthquakes, fault lines go deep beneath and are usually unseen at the surface. This past election has brought many lines of division to the surface in our country. Although we now have a symbolic step out of the way with the election of Barack Obama, it is time to make the real dream come true.

It’s possible and in working together we can make it probable! I invite you join me and countless others, both past and present, in envisioning a world that is an environment of support, respect, and safety for all, regardless of intellect, physical barriers and limitations, race, social, or economic issues where we are judged by the content of our character.

Larry Tracey, Jr., founder of Youth4Youth, would like your feedback. Members of Youth4Youth believe each student has the potential to be successful. We work to create environments in which all students are given the opportunity to discover and begin development of their potential.   www.youth4youth.org

How to Make Life Fair

Friday, January 16th, 2009

My grandmother was always about fairness. When people would say, “That’s not fair, life’s not fair,” she would look at us smile and wink. Mom, as we called her, saw life differently. She would always say, “The more a person tries, the more fair life becomes. You can go through life complaining about things or you can do something about it.” 

 

Her favorite saying was “Be fair to yourself.” Her favorite question was “Are you being fair to yourself?” It was a great way to get her point across without preaching.

 

When I didn’t understand my math homework, I became frustrated, threw my pencil down and quit. Mom would say, “Be fair to yourself: when you don’t understand something…ask a question.” I asked and I became very good at math.

 

When I couldn’t make a basket because the basketball hoop was too high, Mom would say “Be fair to yourself; give yourself a chance to become good.” I became good and in sixth grade I played on the eighth grade team and we won the CYO Championship.

 

When I started playing little league baseball I would always strike out and spend most of the game on the bench. Mom would say, “Be fair to yourself; give yourself a chance to improve.” I improved and became very good at getting on base. I became a great coach and understood that fairness was to help kids learn and encourage them to continue trying.

 

Year’s ago my grandmother’s had her Fav Five

Be fair to yourself; ask questions.

Be fair to yourself; try something more than once.

Be fair to yourself; believe you can do it.

Be fair to yourself; do not give up.

Be fair to yourself and you will know how to be fair to others.

 

Be fair to yourself and give yourself a chance to be all you can be, at math, as an artist, reader, writer, athlete, friend, parent or teacher.

 

At the end of a recent Youth4Youth Student Leadership Training, a student shared because of knowing the information we learned, she would have an unfair advantage over others in school and she felt that wasn’t right. I realized at that moment, sometimes we tend to hold ourselves back in the name of, or what we perceive fairness to be. I asked her, “Would it be fair if you returned to school and did not use the skills you learned today to make your school a better place?” In that moment she saw the strength of fairness and we closed our leadership training by reading the following:

 

A Leader’s Call to Fairness

When fairness calls for me to stand-up or speak-up for another,

it allows me to show true strength.

 

When fairness calls for me to listen to someone’s different point of view,

it allows me to understand.

 

When fairness calls for me to decide what I believe in,

it allows me to lead with passion.

 

When fairness calls for me to have a vision;

it allows me to have direction.

 

When fairness calls for me to see the potential in someone else;

it allows me to encourage them.

 

When fairness calls for me to play fair,

it allows me to be proud of accomplishments.

 

When fairness calls for me to think things through,

it allows me to see all life’s possibilities.

 

When fairness calls for me to tell the truth,

it allows me to live freely.

 

When fairness calls for me to follow my heart,

it allows me to do the right thing.

 My grandmother was about fairness. She taught me the more I tried, the more fair life became. © 2008 Larry Tracey All Rights Reserved 

 

Larry Tracey is founder of Youth4Youth, which teaches success, leadership and promotes school safety by treating everyone with respect. For Ultimate Leadership Training for your school or organization contact Larry Tracey at 216-410-4307 or email.

Choose Great Over Good

Sunday, January 11th, 2009

Going for the great. A lot of good out there – but it distracts you from the great. Begin to see the difference between the two. Then choose the great. Many spend most of life in the good and never get to great. How about you?

 “We take many of our childhood perceptions and beliefs, especially our fears and self-doubts into our teenage and adult lives and it’s those perceptions and beliefs that hold many back for a whole lifetime. But the GREAT news is…that can all be changed.” 

Larry Tracey it founder of Youth4Youth, empowering teens to be the change with self-confidence and action. www.youth4youth.org